Or more like people from People are weird week.

First it was Darvin retarded ass! And now Stupid and Freak….

Stupid texted me: “I saw Twan! You can see his smile from a mile away. From Stupid” I read this and was like… Wow! It’s been a while since we last spoke, and you send me a text like we just went clubbing last night?? I deleted it. I could’ve responded asking where did she see him, but that just would’ve lead to text-messaging-conversation that would’ve included a lie as to why she fell off the face of the earth. Which would’ve lead to us communicating again. Then I would want to get my godson and then she would use my love for him, to use me for something else. So I said fuck it! Neither one of them are a part of my life anymore outside of prayer and that’s how SHE chose to make it… no need to entertain her. GTL said I should’ve responded, “Who is this?” LOL! I was like maybe, but it would’ve still lead to the lines of communication being open and that’s not what I want so….

Freak called. We held a lengthy conversation about what’s been going on in our lives and what the purpose of her original intent of getting in contact with me was. She said that it was never a problem with me, she had issues with Stupid. And since Stupid and I were close, she just chose to stay away. Her baby-father informed her that her life was always drama-free when Stupid wasn’t around. I laughed and was like, why couldn’t he tell me the same damn thing!!! My gut instinct was saying… leave the past in the past, just know that we can now be cordial when we see each other. But sometimes we never listen to our gut instinct – I really hope it doesn’t bite me in the ass. I told Freak that we should go to the bar sometime and really catch up. She was like cool. The very next day (last night) she invited me to a get-together at her man’s house in DC. I was a little skeptical at first but then was like, fuck it b/c GTL’s homeboys were in DC and if something popped off, then I know they’d come through for me. Plus I’m very good at paying attention to where I’m going when I’m not driving, just in case I need to make a call for someone to come get me. (you just never know!!)

The evening was ok. I could've/should've stayed home and finished my HW as I set out to do for the weekend. We didn’t stay long. Another one of her home-girls went with us, and just listening to their conversation proved to me that Freak and I can be cool, but we’ll NEVER be close again. She’s in a different stage in her life… a stage that I’ve already been through. She still parties to meet people. I party for the fun of it. Although she has someone in her life that she WANTS to be her man, she still talks to and visits other dudes. I’m ready to settle down (well I already have) and I don’t really want to associate with those still playing games. It’s one thing to date people to figure out who you want to make “the one” but when you have a great person in front of you – cause dude was hella cool – and you’re still seeing others, something’s wrong there. And the number one reason she and I could never be as close as we were – her daughter! I don’t have kids, and neither do any of my FRIENDS (except E down in Charlotte.) I don’t want to become cool with her again and get attached to her daughter again, and then we have a falling out again, and my feelings are hurt over a little kid again. So she’s no longer an enemy… but she’s definitely not a friend!

I wonder who from my past will call me next? That’s the problem when you have the same number for years… anybody can just decided to call and “see how you’ve been.” LOL

So last night I’m reading for school and my phone rings with an unrecognizable number. I answers and the conversation goes like this:
Me: Hello
Him: Can I speak to Tiffany
Me: Yeah, who’s this?
Him: Darvin
Me: Silence (thinking to self, Darvin? Darvin? Darvin?) Oh! What’s up?
Him: You remember me?
Me: Yeah. What’s up?
Him: Nothing, I came across this old ass phone I had and saw your number and wanted to give you a call and see how you’ve been?
Me: I’ve been fine. How about you? What you been up to?
Him: Me? Chillin’. Up to no good. (Now even if I didn’t have a wonderful man in my life, if I haven’t talked to you in a while and you tell me you’ve been up to no good, that does NOT peak my interest.) Me and my homeboy got the high school party scene on lock and we’re about to open a club.
Me: That’s what’s up.

Darvin is the dude from People (females) are Weird that I reference in the update on “Twin.” So in the interest of brevity for this post the convo went like this: I ask him about Twin… he asks if I were home from school yet (I’ve been home for 2 years now, so that goes to show you how long it’s been since we’ve spoke.) I ask about his daughter… He now has a son….

Back to the dialect…

Me: So what made you call?
Him: I told you, I came across the phone wanted to see how you been.
Me: I get that, but it’s been over 2 years since we talked… I’m just a little confused as to what made you call me
Him: It hasn’t been that long
Me: Yes it has, because I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and you and I stopped talking before he and I hooked up.
Him: (With a surprised tone)Your boyfriend?
Me: Yeah, my boyfriend…. And the fact that you have a 7 month year old goes to show how long it’s been..
Him: I guess… but it’s about to be hot outside, I ain’t got time for relationships

Again… even if I didn’t have a wonderful man in my life, if you don’t have time for relationships, why call? I’m done with the whole “agreement” thing… we can just kick thing… you do you, I do me thing… Been there done that, Baltimore is too small to continue doing that!!

But I’m like this… if you thought that much of me to call me after two years to “see how I was doing” what makes you think that within that 2 year time span someone wouldn’t have thought that much of me to make me his girl?

Dudes are crazy and I ain’t got time, so I kindly ended that conversation short! I’m glad that GTL and I re-met, and share what we have b/c dudes are crazy and I don’t have time for their mess!!

First, I want to thank all of ya’ll for the kind words that my sister is lucky to have me. I really appreciate it. And I thank you for the advice that was given to me, although I couldn’t apply it by the time that I received them, any time I have to talk to her or my other little sister, I’ll keep them in thought! Now on to the conversation….

The conversation went like this. I’m in blue and my little sister is in green.

So what’s up with school?
Nothing, I just have to do some extra work so I can pass these classes.
No, I mean why are you failing in the first place?
Did you talk to Daddy?
Yeah.
What he say?
He told me what was up, but I rather hear it from you.
I’m failing three classes and I have to make up the work so I can graduate.
Why are you failing? Are the classes hard, you don’t like the work, you bored? Help me understand the problem.
No they not hard.
Why have you been hooking school?
I don’t really call it hooking… I’ve just been leaving early.
Girl that’s hooking… Where you going when you hook?
Well, the last few times, I’ve been looking for jobs.
Jobs where?
The mall.
Where in the mall?
I just put in applications in most of the stores in the mall.
Well, that’s no real reason to hook school. Think about it. You leave school to find a job that’s going to pay you no more than $7 and hour. You run the risk of failing the 12th grade and you won’t be able to get a better job paying $12 or something that requires a high school diploma. Does that make sense to you?
I see what you saying.
You know your father [I don’t claim him] thinks you’re hooking school to go see some dudes?
What?!? No I’m not.
Well, that’s what he thinks. He said that the days that you hook, you come straight home and take a bath. Is that true?
No!
Well, I don’t really care what you doing, but you really need to be in school. You won’t be able to do anything with your life if you don’t. If niggas is the reason you’re hooking, please be smarter than that. Niggas ain’t shit! They just want to fuck. And you should never put your life in jeopardy because of someone else. And hooking school to find a job is not a good reason either. The malls are open until 9… you can go up there when you finish school. You’re 18. You’re an adult. Once the school year ends, whether you graduate or not, your aunt can put you out. And then what? Do you have plans for after school?
Yeah. I want to go to Medix.
Well you know that won’t happen if you don’t graduate from high school?
Yeah.
Did you say that if you don’t graduate, you can just get your GED?
No!!
Well, even if that was a thought to you… trying to get your GED is 10 times harder than just going to school and doing what you’re supposed to do… Just something to think about.

Then there was silence for a little while. I didn’t want her to think I was drilling her, and I wanted to make sure everything sunk in.

I know it’s probably hard for you to listen to me or your father since we haven’t really been in your life like that before. And I feel you on him, because he had the opportunities to be there for us before and didn't. I even feel like he can’t say a damn thing to me too, but the point is, we do care about you and what happens to you.
I know.
Why you lie to me?
I didn’t.
Yes you did. Every time we talk, I always ask you how is school, you say fine, but you know it’s not. Why lie?
I don’t know.
When’s the last time you talk to Na-Na? [that’s one of her little sisters – they have different fathers, so she lives with her dad.]
Yesterday.
Does she know about your school situation?
Yes.
See, that’s what I’m talking about. Why can you talk to her, and not to me?
Because you’re going to be mad.
No I’m not.
Yes you will. You are now.
I’m mad because you lied to me. I’m your sister. I love you regardless. But if your having problems in school, I much rather you talk to me being up front and honest from jump so I can do all that I can to help you. When you lie, I’m going to eventually find out and be pissed cause you lied to me. I’m not going to judge you, I want to help you. But I can’t help you if you don’t come to me.
OK. I won’t lie to you again. And I’ll come to you if I need help.

Are you having sex?
No.
I looked at her like, bitch don’t lie!
For real! I’m not.
You have a boyfriend?
Yeah.
How old is he?
23
You have a 23 year old boyfriend, and you’re not having sex?
No! But let me ask you this. By him being that age, and the fact that he hasn’t even asked to have sex… do you think he’s cheating?
Yes! Well let me rephrase that. As I said before, most niggas ain’t shit! There are a few decent dudes out there that aren’t looking just to have sex, but 9 out of 10 of them are! I can’t really say by not knowing the dude.

Then we picked up GTL and headed over to Kween’s for her cook out. So we kind of ended that topic of conversation

When I took her home she asked me when was I going to come get her again. I said, when you graduate, we can hang out all you want. I gave her a big hug, and said, “Don’t forget what I said. I’m here for you, just come to me. And PLEASE don’t lie to me.” She said OK and went into the house.

So I think my talk helped. I really hope that it did and that I get to see my sister walk across the stage in June.

I volunteer as a Big Sister to a little girl that turned10 today. I do it for selfish reasons (like wanting to become a Delta and needing volunteering under my belt) but also because I want to help my community become better than what it has become. Also because I think that I can make a difference in a child’s life, and since I’m not ready to have my own, and every time I try to be a good God-mother, the child’s mother is stupid, so this is the route to take.

But being so busy being a “big sister” to the 10-year, I neglected to be a good/big sister to my real sister. She and I have different mothers. And her mother was actually murdered a few years back. She and I recently became close (like a year before the passing of her mom.) She turned 18 the end of March. I’ve always tried to become close to her, by my attempts always fell short. She and I were just totally different so I always figure in time, she’ll come around.

Well the time has come for me to stop waiting on her, and step up to the plate as I should’ve done a while ago. My father recently informed me that she has been doing very poorly in school. She’s been passed along so much due to the “No Child Left Behind Act” that she is a senior, but technically she’s still a FRESHMAN!! She’s been hooking school and because she hooked twice in a row, they suspended her. So my father went up to the school to find out the deal. She still taking 9th grade courses. But they gave her extra courses and a portfolio to complete, so that if she does well in all of her courses, she can graduate in June. She hasn’t even started on the damn thing!!

Then she says to my father “Well if I don’t graduate, I can always get my GED” WTF!!!!! I understand that there are some instances that requires a child to drop out and later pursue the GED… but this isn’t one of them. My father told her, that if she chooses not to go to college, that’s on her, but she IS going to graduate from high school.

I haven’t spoken with her yet, only because right now I want to curse her out! I get her today. We’re going to discuss this. My father told her he’s not mad, he’s disappointed. Fuck that! I’m mad. Whenever we would talk, I always ask her about school, and she always tells me “fine.” She lied. I don’t do well with liars. (Chele, that’s the deal breaker!) So I really don’t even want to hear her excuse because I don’t know what’s the truth and what’s a lie.

Thanks to conversations with friends, I plan on the conversation going something like this: Daddy told you he wasn’t mad, but I am. I don’t appreciate you lying to me, as I would never judge you for not doing well in school. I would just do my best to help you. But you didn’t come to me, so I really don’t want to hear your excuses because I won’t believe you. But let me ask you this? What do you plan to do when school is over? What do you plan to do 5 years from now? Do you realize that by you now being 18, you’re an adult, and once June comes, if your aunt wants to, she can put you out? Then what?? I know you’ve been hooking school hanging out with boys, do you think they really care about you? Or would even want to hang out with you and they didn’t think they could fuck? (I’ve always tried to be her friend, but now it’s time for me to be her big sister. So I know what I say may sound harsh, but it’s reality and someone has to give it to her straight.) School is important and you need to make sure that you do well and graduate. Attempting to get your GED is a helluva lot hard than going to school everyday and doing your work. If you need help with something, you can come to me. But NEVER lie to me again, telling me everything is fine just because that’s what you think I want to hear... that's not cool! Without a high school diploma, you’ll be stuck living in your aunt’s house forever, depending on others until they get tired of you. You’ve never had a job, so no one will ever hire you, except McDonald’s or Burger King and I know you don’t want to work there the rest of your life….

I have a lot that I want to say to her. I’m going to try to stick to that basis… and hear her out (hopefully she won’t lie.)

If it were your little sister or brother, what would you say?

…I would win the freaking lottery!! The mega million on Tuesday was for $259 million. Someone else won it, but if I did, this is what I’d do:

I’d have if broken up over my life time (I’m young, I have a long life to live ~ God forbid some knucklehead takes it away from me)

I would sooo quit my full time job. I would keep the weekend job because (once they find someone) that’s only one weekend a month that I would have to work. And I would set it up that all of my money goes into a 401K plan.

I have a pretty big family, so I would hit everyone off with $1,000 (they can’t say I didn’t give them anything.) And $1K is more money that what they previously had…

I’d pay off my mom’s house and grandmother’s house and car. And then give them each like $25 million.

GTL would get his hoops/gym for him to own and his brother to operate. And his Jaguar…

My 3 homeboys are into music (the rap game.) Equipment and shit is expensive, so I would give them a nice amount in gift certificates to places like the Guitar Center so they can get on their grind.

My homegirls and I would go on a GREAT vacation bi-yearly, my treat… I don’t know if I would give them a lump sum, but if they needed me for something, they’d know they could come to me. I’d definitely take them on a shopping spree though.

Money would definitely get invested in Mutual Funds and Brokerage accounts and all that good shit. Along with College 529 plans for my future kids.

I’d buy myself a nice size house (not mansion, but house.) Pay off my Malibu and then buy myself a Denali for whatever road trips I want to take. I sure as hell would be debt free!

And then I’d volunteer occasionally because I’d get bored with staying in the house all damn day.

And when I go shopping, if “I like it, I buy it” without even looking at the price tag!!

What would you do if you won the lottery?

The club itself is beautiful! It used to be a museum, turned to restaurant, now club and restaurant. The people that GTL promotes for are so unorganized! We got there at 9 as requested, but of course they didn’t arrive until 9:30 or so. So he and I and one of the other promoters just tripped out at the bar. (Our bartender sucked and almost blew my night) When they finally got there, they moved the party upstairs. Shortly after, my home-girl arrived. She and I went to the bar and took a seat while GTL did his thing. Out bartender (Joe) was GREAT!! So great he made up for the jerk downstairs. It was still early so his register wasn’t set up yet. So we ordered and he said he’ll ring us up later. Together, we had 2 shots of Patron and a Cosmopolitan (that was my first time ever having that – well it was really my home-girls, and I tasted it – A-Fucking-Mazing!!) Before he rung it up, he was like $28. OK, no problem. We took our money out and then he got situated. More people came over to him, so Joe helped them as we took our shots and she sipped her drink. Then I asked Joe for a Hennessy and Coke. So he finally got around to ringing us up for the first drink. The bill was $23. How do you add a drink and then lose some money on the bill’s balance…. I’m not complaining, but that was when I knew I was in love.. LOL!! He hooked us up! No measurements on the drinks… then he gave us FREE shots of Grand Mainer (that’s more expensive than Hennessy!) Needless to say, I was nice and drunk, which I needed to be in order to tolerate that whack ass music! White people dance to damn near anything… when EVERYONE in the room is at a standstill… that should be a sign to the DJ to change the music! But he didn’t get the hint. So we rolled out early.

Saturday…. I had to work. And then I went to Church for the Easter Vigil.. as not to have to deal with all the people that only come to church on Easter… and also to be able to sleep in on Sunday.

Sunday… I slept in. Did some laundry and then went to my grandmother’s for dinner. Dinner was delicious as always but too many damn people were there for my taste. After dinner, I stayed for another 30 min or so and then dipped. I had some homework to do anyways!

How was your weekend?

I don’t blog that much anymore. I never really did, but when I met you guys in blogland, I made a conscious effort to try to blog at least 2 or 3 times a week. Problem is, I usually blog about what’s going on with me. And other than work… ain’t shit going on! I haven’t been out in a while… so no crazy stories about how much fun I had at this club or that club. Well… I’m going out tonight!! My husband’s promo group has been slacking on parties.. but the chick that runs it turns 25 and she’s having a birthday party. (Come out if you can!)

I’ve become spoiled. I don’t like going out anymore unless it’s FREE or $5 to get in… the max I’m willing to pay is $10 (unless it’s a special occasion.) So that’s probably another reason I don’t go out that much anymore.

Anyways… maybe I’ll have something to talk about on Monday from tonight (or just something at all!)

HAPPY EASTER!!!!

Not much. I’m a workaholic right now. I’ve been non-stop since the end of Feb. Although, I did call out one day a few weeks ago. But other than that, I’ve been chilling, enjoying life.

Did you see the fight this weekend? That was one of the best fights I’ve seen in a long time. They were really boxing! Not trying to avoid getting knocked out (i.e. Roy Jones Jr. – his last fight was horrible!!) I personally don’t think that Judda intentionally threw that low blow. His swings are wild and he threw an uppercut, I think he was just swinging and happened to hit him in the balls…. But once he realized he did hit him there, I think he was wrong for still hitting him after he saw how much pain Mayweather was in. But what was most exciting about the fight was when the TRAINERS got into the ring and started going at it.



It took like 20 cops to break that shit up! It was crazy!! But I’m glad they let the 2 finish the fight. But I honestly thought Mayweather woulda tried to KILL Judda after the “incident” since his uncle got escorted out of the arena. (I know I would’ve) but he didn’t, he just beat him fair and square by decision. But in the beginning I thought Judda was gonna knock his ass out… he called his ass “BULLSHIT!!” after a round.. but I guess he wasn’t that much bullshit cause he sure as hell won by a unanimous decision.

I’m going to start playing the lottery. Not daily, but definitely the mega jackpot on a regular, because I hate working. I can never find anything that completely satisfies me. Either I like what I do, and hate the pay or I hate what I do, and am content with the pay. If I won, I’d keep the part-time job but would volunteer different places so I wouldn’t get bored doing nothing all day. I’m not even going to think about what I’d do, cause the odds are against me to win… so I’ll just pray on it.

Kween, I know you tagged me with 6 weird things about me, but I’m not weird!!! LOL… It was hard as hell to think of some things that many people wouldn’t guess/know about me, but here ya’ go:

1. I have a warped sense of humor. I don’t laugh at what most people find hilarious, I laugh at the corny things that people find stupid.
2. I can’t really dance, but love to go clubbing (that’s where the Hennessy comes into play…LOL)
3. I don’t eat vegetables often.
4. If I don’t like the look or smell of a particular food, I won’t eat it.
5. I have NO family outside of the city/county of Baltimore.
6. I HATE to be disturbed when I’m sleeping, but if I have problems sleeping or if I wake up extra early, better believe everyone in the house is up with me too! Ain’t that right, GTL?

I didn’t do anything this weekend. So no good stories to tell. I think I’ll end now cause there really isn’t much going on with me. Have a good week everyone!

Thanks Luvin' Me!

The rules are
1. Come up with 10 different points of their perfect lover
2. Mention the gender of target
3. The person tagged has to tag 8 people and leave them a comment letting them know they have been tagged.

My PERFECT man is GTL...

His 10 qualities that make him perfect to me are:

1. Honest/Trustworthy - Trust is the most important thing in a relationship (it falls in line w/ being one's friend)
   
2. Possess a good sense of humor - If we can't laugh together, we'll have a dull relationship
   
3. Athletic - We can play baskeball and work out together
   
4. Sense of style - speaks for itself, although it does kinda break my pockets come birthdays and Christmas.. LOL
   
5. Accepting - I'm not perfect.. GTL realizes that, and still loves me for me
   
6. Focused - He has goals in his life.. he's not just living each day as it comes
   
7. Loving - He LOVES me.. what more can I ask for?
   
8. Compatible/Common Interests - We need to share common interests, else we can never do anything together besides $&@! (that's great, but I need more)
   
9. God Loving/Fearing - We can go to Church together... plus if he doesnt love and know God... we have some issues anyways!
   
10. Respectful - R-E-S-P-E-C-T-find-out-what-it-means-to-me!! LOL.. Respect me. Don't walk all over me and treat me like shit! Cause we won't last long.. and as long as he respects he momma, he's bound to respect me as well!

GTL has all of these traits and probably some more that I can't think of (cause this was kinda hard) and that's why he's MY PERFECT MAN :o)

I would’ve titled this, my friends are weird, but I honestly don’t consider these people friends anymore. I consider myself a good person, if I think we’re close enough to call you a friend, then I expect you to treat me the exact same way that I treat you. I learn more and more, that not everyone you’re cool with is a friend. I do fully understand that, but I also find that people that start off as a friend, doesn’t always remain that way.

WARNING: This is a long post... deal with it!!

Why is it, that most females cannot befriend a large amount of females at one time? In high school and college, I always had about 2 or 3 close female friends and about 5 or 6 close male friends. I know a lot of females that his holds true for as well. Out of my three “close female friends” from high school, I kind of still talk to one. (but not for long) Out of my two “close female friends” from college, I only consider one a true friend.

Let’s talk about these weird ass chicks! Now some may try to argue, if you can’t keep a female friend, then maybe the problem is with you… maybe… but I doubt it! Or it could be that my mindset is so totally different than that of these females, I don’t understand why I even befriended them in the 1st place.

High School

Close friend number one: We’ll call her Twin. We kind of fell out the summer b/w sophomore and junior year. My senior year, I transferred schools. We didn’t talk as much, come to find out, SHE pursued a dude that I was “in love” with. She knew that I really liked dude. Yeah, I had another boyfriend, but this isn’t elementary/middle school where it was ok to date your friends’ exes. Regardless of my current status, she shouldn’t have pursued an ex of mine. That kind of sealed the deal on our friendship right there.

Close friend number two: We’ll call her Freak. She made me the godmother of her daughter. We stayed cool until half way thru my sophomore year of college. When my ex got locked up, she claimed that her boyfriend/baby’s daddy felt some type of way towards Freak hanging out with me and close friend number three (more on her later.) Supposedly he thought that we would influence her to cheat on him and blah, blah, blah. And that was one of the main reasons I couldn’t get my goddaughter on a regular as I wanted. That pissed me off, coupled with the fact that I didn’t want to be cause of a family breaking apart, I kind of just pulled myself away from Freak.

Close friend number three: We’ll call her Stupid. (if you really want to know why, check out my July – Oct posts, this is the chick I’m talking about) Anyways… She has a shitty attitude. I accepted that from jump. She and I have been talking on and off for a long time now. When we are talking, we’re the greatest of friends. When we’re not, it’s usually cause her stupid ass got mad over something that made no fucking sense. One time, it was because she showed me that I couldn’t depend on her as a friend like she could me, and I didn’t like that. Once we made amends, I became her son’s godmother. I love this lil’ nigga to death! And honestly, if it weren’t for him, we’d probably would’ve stopped talking 3-4 years ago. Right now, I feel like FUCK HER.

College

Close friend number one: We’ll call her Adulterer. Her priorities are screwed up, which kind of makes me dislike her, but other times we can really have great times together. I moved back home from school, and our friendship is slowly but surely dying.

Close friend number two: We’ll call her E. We’re just alike, so sometimes our attitudes clash. We may occasionally go through spats where we aren’t talking. But through it all, we are friends. This is the friend that I went to go visit in Charlotte back in Jan.

Now to why these people (with the exception of E) are weird:

In college, I decided that I wouldn’t hold onto petty grudges with people that I thought was a friend to me. So I called up Twin and Stupid (b/c at this time, we hadn’t spoke in a few years) and made amends.

Shortly after, I met this dude. We were kicking it for a while, and come to find out, Twin used to date him a while ago. Now I know that I said, you don’t date the exes of your friends, but I was like, fuck her, she did it to me, and me and the boy are just talking… nothing else. Well soon as Twin finds out (her best friend is his cousin) she starts blowing his phone up, talking about “Do you miss me?” If he missed your ass, don’t you think he would’ve called you? But I was like, I ain’t got time. So I dropped both of their asses!

Later on, I found out that Freak lied. Her boyfriend didn’t have a problem with me and Stupid. She had issues with her damn self! I see the boyfriend occasionally out with his NEW girlfriend. Last I saw him was a few months ago. Well Freak saw my cousin a while back and they exchanged numbers. Out of the blue she calls him, and was like “Tell TTD to call me.” So I did to see what the hell she wanted. With attitude, from her, the convo went like this:
Freak: “Baby-daddy said he saw you a couple of weeks ago at the movies”
Thinking ~ whatever bitch, that was like 2 months ago!
Me: “Yeah, I saw him a while ago.”
Freak: “Well, I just wanted to say, you are Jordyn’s godmother, and she’s having a birthday party on such and such date, and I think she’d like it if you came.”
I gets the info from her and is thinking to myself: What the fuck was that all about?? (1) Me seeing baby-daddy ain’t got shit to do with an invitation to your daughter’s birthday party. (2) I haven’t seen your daughter since she was ONE, she doesn’t know who I am, and could care less if I came to the party. (3) If YOU really wanted me there, what’s all the attitude about???

Stupid… makes me angry! Because of her shitty attitude, she really can’t keep a friend. But I’d tried to be there for her and her son, cause her family really isn’t. I moved this bitch into my mom’s crib RENT FREE so she could get herself together for her and her son’s sake. What she do? USE ME!!! And even after I let her know she couldn’t stay there anymore, but I would always be there for her and her son, she still used me. But not anymore. I refuse to let someone walk all over me when I try to be the best friend that I can be to someone. Last straw: she invited me to the circus with her and my godson, her treat. Cool! I thought, our friendship is looking on the ups now. Well after the circus, I realized that she used me as a babysitter for her son so he could enjoy the circus. She works 3rd shift, so during the time of the circus, she would normally be sleep. So she fell asleep in the circus. No big deal, I thought, because I ain’t pay for anything. Two weeks later, I invited her to a FREE skating event that my Church was giving. I said, I got your skates and any food that you may want. She was down. The morning of, I text her, “Are you still going tonight?” No response. When I got off of work, I called her. No answer. But the bitch knew I was calling b/c she was on the other line. If you have Verizon (and I’m not sure what other carriers) but if you’re on a call and someone else calls, the caller knows you’re on the other line because the phone has an extra beep at the end of the ring. Don’t play me for stupid, bitch, that’s YOU! So I’m done with her. Too many things to prove her lack of friendship skills that I don’t have time to teach anyone. Yes, I will miss her son. I will continue to pray for him, but my New Year’s resolution was not to stress out over people that don’t want my friendship.

Adulterer… I’m not even going to put her business out there, but from what I named her, you can tell some things already. She’s VERY materialistic. Yes, I like nice things, but they don’t define me. But they do for her. I don’t like that. It’s not cute. Anyways… ever since I moved back to Baltimore from PA, I was always the one making the trip to visit friends from PA (it’s only an hour drive, so it’s really not that bad.) But damn!! Can you come make a trip to see a friend without having the underlying reason being shopping?? Can you pick up the phone and have 20-30 min conversation over the phone once a week to see how someone is doing as opposed to texting back and forth all day, when you KNOW the other is working?? Lately, my approach has been: Fuck it, she calls, she calls, if not oh well!

It’s crazy because I have three male friends, that have been my friends since MIDDLE school. Why can’t I keep a friendship with a female that long?

Luckily when I came back from college, GTL introduced me to the girlfriends/ex-girlfriends of his homeboys, and these chicks have been REAL FRIENDS to me ever since.

We all have many things in common. NONE of us have kids. Which is great for me because all aforementioned people did. I realize that I tend to try to make a friendship work b/c I’m attached to kid… none of that happening here. We all have CAREERS! Or at least a decent paying job with career-goals in mind. We can and do, do any and everything together! I don’t see any of us falling out over something petty.

So I guess it’s not that females are really weird (although some really are.. LOL) but I guess it’s more that I’m on a whole ‘nother level than chicks my age (all of my new friends are older.) I’ve also decided that I’m giving up on being someone’s godparent because MY feelings (and maybe the kids) get hurt in the end when me and their stupid ass mother fall out. Hopefully my new friends and I can end the tradition of me ending a friendship with a female in a few short years… Because “these friends are great! And I love those guys!” :o)

*waving both hands simultaneously like a queen (or in some eyes, a retard)*
Hi Guys!!