Saturday, December 31, 2005
Happy New Year’s!!!
2006 is here. 2005 went by so fast. I guess time really does fly when you’re having fun. It was a good year. Got a new car, a 2nd job, a different 1st job, started grad school, added a new buddy to my list of homegirls (I’ve never had this many female friends at one time!) I’ve been on a few trips (Ocean City, Virginia, Philadelphia, and Vegas.) I really can’t complain about 2005. Don’t get me wrong, as every year, there were there fair shares of ups and downs, but definitely more ups than downs.

With the new year, people tend to make New Year’s resolutions, but I’ve decided to make New Life resolutions. The changes that I will make this year will affect me for a lifetime, not just 2006.

1.) Towards the end of 2005, I lacked in my attendance to church, so I will make sure that I’m on top of my game when it comes to that. I noticed that when I wouldn’t go to church, I was always angry, and I didn’t like that feeling. Plus God is the reason that I was blessed for 2005 and the years before, so I need to give Him praise. Tonight will start my weekly attendance in church as long as I’m physically able to attend (and I don’t have to work at the part-time job) When I go to church on a regular basis, I’m a happier and better person.

2.) I’m going to figure out what I want to do with myself (career-wise.) Right now I feel like I’m not sure if I chose the right career path, and this year I will find out. I’m determined to find a career that satisfies me financially, mentally, morally, and emotionally. Whatever my choice (IT or not) “I’m” going to be happy. I’m going to feel well compensated for my output. I’m going to like the people that I work with and for. I’m going to enjoy what I do (every aspect of it… no I like this, but not this – I’m going to like EVERYTHING.) I’m not going to be stressed out with tons of work to do, but I’m not going to be bored out of my mind with nothing to do. I’m going to have a career that I can be proud of doing. One that doesn’t make me too tired to enjoy life. Whatever career path I chose will be to satisfy ME and only me.

3.) I’m going to determine who my real friends are and let go of the ones that are not. Often time I find myself stressed over situations that my “friends” and I go through. And I’ve come to the point that I’ve realized that if we were really friends, we wouldn’t be in that situation, which means I don’t need you in my life because I’m too young to have a head full of grey hairs. Also, I find myself reaching out to others to maintain a friendship of years, but if I come to the conclusion that if you aren’t putting forth the same effort, fuck it, it wasn’t meant to be – regardless of how many years has been invested into the relationship.

4.) I will build a better relationship with my ½ sister. Her mom was killed, our dad’s a loser (well, he’s trying now, so I should give him credit for that) But she needs a positive influence on her life so that she doesn’t become a statistic. I never really liked growing up as the only child, now that I have the opportunity to have a sibling, I need to take advantage of it.

So that’s what’s what for 2006. If the message that I hear tonight, opens my eyes to something else, I’ll update on Tuesday. I wish that everyone has/had (whenever you read this) a safe, prosperous, and HAPPY NEW YEAR’S!!!!!!!
 
posted by TTD at 12/31/2005 01:26:00 PM | Permalink | 0 comments
Thursday, December 29, 2005

My Christmas was great!! I got an automatic starter :o) Plus clothes, money, and gift cards. Dinners were great. I spent more time than usual with my cousins, which was cool since I really don’t spend a lot time with on the regular (mainly holidays.) A tragedy occurred on Christmas, but everything happens for a reason, so I’ll look at the bright side of it (which “you” should too) my husband and I will spend more time together because of it. I will spend the night more than 3-5 times a week… Church on Christmas Eve was good. We have a new choir director who I believe is/was Baptist, so if you ever been to a Catholic church, you know that the music selection was a pleasant change.

I’m finally a Big Sister for Big Brother / Big Sister. I met my little sister on Monday. She’s cute and seems sweet. But this is such a small world. Her mom and aunt are my cousin’s co-workers. So I called up my cousin to get the scoop on them from her, she says that if she were me, she would ask for a different little sister, b/c the little girl is too grown. Her mom/aunt are nosey, miserable people… that the mom always put men in front of her daughter, which in turn makes that daughter needy. (Reminds me of someone else that I know – will get to that topic in a min) Now, my cousin is kind of negative about everything and everyone, so I really don’t know how to take what she said. Of course, I’m not going to back out of it. I made a commitment. But I really hope that my cousin was wrong because I’m really excited about doing this. My little sister just started playing basketball, but has never been to a game. So eventually, I’m going to take her to one. But she likes to skate and bowl. I’m taking her bowling this weekend.

I’ve decided that I can’t wait 6 months. I need a new job ASAP!! So I’ve started my job search again. Keep me in your prayers that I find a job that pays well, that’s close to home, that I enjoy the work that I do, and I like the people that I’m working with!! I just happened to look up on my shelf where my pictures are… someone stole my Cherub!! My grandmother went to Rome and brought me back a Cherub while I was in school. It was supposed to watch over me while I work and protect me… somebody stole it!! Whoever did it is going to hell. But I’m super-pissed about that… all the more reason for me to get out of this place. I’ve even thought about doing contractual work until I found something permanent just so I can leave this company. There are so many things about this place that are starting to irk me (more than what they were.)

So I have this friend… associate… whatever you want to call her. I’ve known her for damn near 10 years now. Our relationship has always been a roller coaster. At one period of time, we stopped talking for like 2 years. Lately, I feel like I don’t know the chick. I haven’t really seen her since like Halloween. We only communicate via email (which I think is crazy b/c my homegirl in NC, we talk on the phone like every-other-day.) But I told shorty that she had to come remove her belongings from my house by New Year’s and return her keys. I haven’t heard from her since. I made it clear, that I was ending the friendship/relationship, she just had to get her shit since she hasn’t stayed there since before Halloween (she kept coming up with BS reasons as to why she wasn’t staying – but I’m not slow, she had no intentions on coming back.) I told her that her that I got something for her and her son for Christmas and that they should stop through. She didn’t… so I sent another email, and in a nutshell was like: I see how you feel, that’s cool, just make sure you get your things by New Year’s (but not so harsh.) Shorty responds with a rude as email, talking about… matter of fact:

“Your sarcasm is really not needed. I don't understand why you would think that I would want to come over the house after you said that I was using you and your mother for storage and sneaking in and out the house, now why would you even think that would make me feel comfortable. Now I was okay with you asking me to leave but I am perfectly able to structure the way I am going to get my things and don't need your sarcasm. I have honestly kept my cool about a lot of things, things I was going to keep to myself. Honestly I don't appreciate how you and your family sat down and dragged my name through the mud. You once again stating that I am a bad mother. Why is it that my cousin has to go to work and be pulled up by your grandmother telling her to talk to me about my son and what my decisions are for him. I am tired of justifying myself to you about my son. She also said that my cousin needs to talk to me because I won't listen to any of you. But honestly know one gave their opinion about the situation just that I needed to get someone else to watch him….”

I read that email and wanted to curse her the f*ck out b/c

1.) I wasn’t being sarcastic
2.) Of course she was using my house as storage & was sneaking around! She hasn’t slept at my house since BEFORE Halloween, yet her things are still there. The only time she came back to the house was to get her mail and more clothes – but she would only come when no one was there
3.) Kept her cool about what??? We barely talk! Only through email, and I haven’t said much of anything to her that doesn’t concern her son since the summer time (probably before then)
4.) Me and my family have NEVER dragged her name (or anyone else for that matter) through the mud. People have their own eyes and can see what’s going on and they make their own decisions. The only time we have ever talked about her, is when they want to know if I spoken with the girl or if I know how her son is doing.
5.)Her cousin fucking lied on my grandmother…. I sent an email to my grandmother telling her to stop talking to the cousin, this was my grandmother’s response:
”Don’t worry, [cousin] and I are not buddies and we rarely talk other than good morning or good night. However, lately she has been overly friendly which must be guilt for her lies. We have not discussed [shorty] nor [son]."
6.) I’ve NEVER called shorty a bad mother. I would give my opinion to different situations, and she would take what I said for me saying that she’s a bad mother – that’s must be a guilty conscious

I have been nothing but nice to that girl. And have been nothing more/less than a good friend to her. She’s unappreciative and needs to grow the f*ck up! I was so ready to wash my hands of her, but a good friend (2 actually) reminded me, that eventually she will realize her mistakes and realize that she needs my friendship and that I shouldn’t close the book on her completely. So… I have placed a book mark in shorty’s book and placed it on my bookshelf, so that whenever she decides to stop acting her son’s age, I’ll open it back up – but if she decides to never change, the book is no longer in my way. The thing that hurts the most about this situation, is that I love her son dearly… and she’s so spiteful, that she will take him away from me b/c she and I aren’t getting along….

 
posted by TTD at 12/29/2005 01:03:00 PM | Permalink | 0 comments
Friday, December 23, 2005
Pictures from Vegas
Me & My Grandmother



James & My Grandmother



Me & James on Gondala



Me @ Rum Jungle



Aunt Ruby



Me & James



James @ The Rum Jungle

 
posted by TTD at 12/23/2005 12:34:00 PM | Permalink | 1 comments
Wednesday, December 21, 2005
Why can’t I be like I used to be?
I remember a time when if I didn’t agree with something someone did or didn’t like how they treated me, I could be like, “I don’t give a f*ck” and move on from that situation or person. But I’ve gotten soft. I try my best not to care about sh*t that doesn’t affect me, but the more I try not to, the more that I do. I’ve read my husband's blog on this topic as well as TE's and no matter how much sense it makes, I can’t just can’t do it. But the more and more I contemplate on the issue, I realize that it’s not her that I can’t let go of, but him. I know that if I close the chapter of my life on her, that also means closing the chapter on him. And I can’t do that. I love him to much to let him go and to constantly wonder if he’s ok? Has she gotten her priorities in order, or does he still suffer b/c she’s so selfish? I lost one little one b/c I said f*ck their mother, and I miss her dearly, which is why I think it’s so hard for me to do it again. Especially since he and I have developed a really close and strong bond. If only I could learn not to concern myself with what she does so much, and only focus on him. But often times, what she do, does affect him… maybe not directly, but it still affects him. I try my best not to judge her and the decisions she make, but in they’re not only wrong in my eyes, but in the eyes of others, which leads me to believe that I need to offer her advice… especially when she asks for it. But why ask for it, if you’re not going to heed to it? (But I guess she got the hint on that one b/c she stopped asking) But I couldn’t call myself a friend if I let her do things that aren’t in her best interest, could I? I definitely wouldn’t be a good Godmother if I knew that the decisions she makes, affects his outcome. If I was like I’d used to be, I’d say “f*ck her!” And “that was my little man, but oh well!” But not anymore! Because of him, I put up with a lot of her BS. I bite my tongue with her a lot… and that’s not me! I wish I could find a way to not have to deal with her unless it involves him. I’m one step towards that way… Come 2006, they won’t be living with me anymore. I already put it out there that that I want to get him at least once a month. So maybe things will work out. She and I won’t have to communicate outside of planning to meet to get him. And he will continue to be a part of my life. I hope that it works out that way… b/c I can’t continue to be worried about her and concern myself about what she does or doesn’t do. But with me getting him, I will know how he’s doing, and do what I can to make him a better person………
 
posted by TTD at 12/21/2005 12:06:00 PM | Permalink | 0 comments
Friday, December 16, 2005
Come Party With Us!!!
Come out tomorrow, Saturday, December 17, 2005 at Club One!! Ladies are free before 11PM. Discount passes available online at www.hnseek.com Print off a pass and enter JWD into the promoter’s box. Pass is good all night long. You’ve seen the pictures posted on the blog, so you know we have a good time….
 
posted by TTD at 12/16/2005 11:52:00 AM | Permalink | 0 comments
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
I know, I know….
….what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. But I had too much fun not to share. (pictures to come soon) So James and I went last Monday through Thursday with my family. We stayed at the Mirage (nice hotel, but too much sh*t with them for me to stay there again.)

So once we get settled on Monday, we gambled a bit (and lost) we walked the strip, and then I took a nice, long nap. Then we got dressed to go to the Run Jungle at the Mandalay Bay. This is one of the nicest clubs I’ve ever been to. For all of you alcoholics out there (like me) they had this bar that had to be about 10-15 feet in the air and about 20 feet wide that was stocked with alcohol, on both sides! I fell in love as soon as I seen it! But the infatuation went away as soon as I bought our drinks – “Jack & Coke and Hennessy & Coke please” “Sure no problem… $23 please” Fuck that! See if my ass buys another drink! (I wish the buzz that we had when we left to go out was still there) So we walked all the way through to the dance floor, and before we even got ready to party, we just had to watch the scenery. On each side of the bar (which was in the middle of the club) they had 2 girls hanging from the ceiling in cages dancing, but what was hot were the trapeze artists. Again on each side of the bar, they had two trapeze artists flipping and twirling and doing all kinds of tricks with an oversized hula-hoop hanging from the ceiling. James and I dipped about 2:30AM, and when we left, there was still a long ass line b/c the clubbed stayed opened til 4AM (on a Monday…)

Tuesday, was a chill day, although it really wasn’t supposed to be. My aunt had a traveler agent’s conference, so my grandmother hung out with us during the day. We went gambling up and down the strip (and continued to lose money!) For dinner we went to the Carnival World Buffet (http://www.harrahs.com/our_casinos/rlv/dining/dining_detail_04.html) We ate so much food! They had 12 different stations, and each station represented a country (theme for the food) They had Chinese, Japanese, Mexican, Italian, American, Seafood, Liquor, Desserts, and others that I can’t remember. James and I planned to take a nap when we got back to the hotel and go to Studio 54 at the MGM Grand that night. But our nap turned into a good night’s sleep. I laid down about 9:30PM and woke up about 7:30AM. And was pissed when I woke up b/c we found out via the news that the Billboard Music Awards was at the MGM Grand the night before (the night we slept away!) But the craziest thing about it, was that there was NO advertisement for it. If you didn’t stay at the MGM, you wouldn’t have known. No flyers, billboards, nothing! You know here, people stay promoting for something when it hits town… especially for the “Official After-party”

Oh well… Life goes on. So Wednesday, we did some more gambling (losing) and site seeing along the strip. We went into Caesar’s Palace and saw the moving/talking statues. Looked into some expensive ass shops à Fendi, Chanel, Harry Winston, Gucci, Manolo. That night we felt like chilling, so we went to Mist Lounge in the Treasure Island. Nice lounge, ridiculously small and crowded (what do you expect for free!) So we left there and walked across the casino to the Tangerine Night Club (http://www.treasureisland.com/pages/ent_tangerine.asp) James had to use the restroom so I’m standing in line with 2 Indian chicks (not Native Americans) are in front of me and 2 Asian chicks are behind me. This bouncer asks us were we together, so we were like “Sure, why not” He was like, then lets go up there and I’ll get ya’ll in. He didn’t know we had more with us! James came back and the 2 Indian chicks had 3 dudes with them, and the 2 Asian chicks had this White couple with them. But the bouncer was cool about it. He waited for everyone’s friends to return and let us ALL in for free, as opposed to waiting in a long as line and having to pay. So that club is cool just for that. But honestly, it was nice. It had a view that overlooked the strip and the free show that Treasure Island gives outside. Plus!!! They rocked a lot of Jay-Z!!

Thursday, we stayed in bed as long as we could before we headed out to the airport (where I flight got delayed) And not due to snow like you would assume, but b/c of a mechanical problem…. Mechanical problem??!!! Give me a new plane!!! But they didn’t
=( But we made it back safe to Baltimore about 2AM in the middle of the snow storm.

Friday we spent the day telling people we got married…. I loved TE and KB’s reactions – too funny! For the most part, people were like, I’m so happy for you, but I wish I was there! So for the record, no, we did not get married. We both agreed prior to going, no matter how much we may want to get married; we weren’t going to do it in Vegas. We want a real wedding with all of our family and friends there!

Pictures to come………
 
posted by TTD at 12/13/2005 12:52:00 PM | Permalink | 0 comments
Thursday, December 01, 2005
World AIDS Day
World AIDS Day is celebrated December 1st of each year. It's a day of action for HIV and AIDS. I'm not going to preach to anyone, but all I can say is that make sure you are smart when it comes to having sex. You can't look at someone and tell they are infected. Always use protection (at least until you and your partner have been tested.) I was listening to the radio this morning, and they were talking about how back in the '80s HIV/AIDS was mainly prevalent in the gay white community, and now it's highly present in the black straight women community. That wasn't shocking to me - HIV/AIDS was bound to spread into other communities. What was shocking, was the fact that nowadays, the percentage in gay white men with new cases of HIV/AIDS has decreased significantly, yet the percentage in black women keeps going up. I don't understand how as black women we can make sure we look fly when we go out, but we can't make sure that we ask questions to our partners or even make them strap up before they go up in us. FYI -- you should be tested for HIV once a year, and if you have a very active sex life with multiple partners) every six months. Please go get tested and smarten up when it comes to having sex! Respect & Protect yourself....

http://www.weallhaveaids.com

http://www.worldaidsday.org/index.asp

Support World AIDS Day
 
posted by TTD at 12/01/2005 12:46:00 PM | Permalink | 0 comments
People Don't Know What to Say Out Their Mouths
This post is in response to the commenter to the previous post "This Quiz is Wack!"

Anonymous, I don’t give a f*ck about what you do or don’t do. You saw the party pics, but didn’t see my husband... you ever stop to think, maybe he was the one taking the pictures? Have you read past posts where his pictures are? If not, lets clear up something. My marriage is far from on the rocks. My husband and I are very happy in our relationship and he


will soon be giving me this ring in order to make out marriage official.


But.....If you need more proof of our happiness via pictures, here ya’ go!



Let this be a lesson learned to any other “anonymous commenters”….. my husband and I love each other deeply. Please do not disrespect me, him, or what we share by thinking that you could get with me… cause it ain’t happening! And as far as trying to be a friend – I have enough of them already. Thanks :o)
 
posted by TTD at 12/01/2005 11:15:00 AM | Permalink | 1 comments